8 Things Not To Say To A Nursing Momma

Once you get married, it’s incredible how personal people get with their inquiries and opinions about your life. Suddenly, everyone from your in-laws, co-workers, and neighbors ask when you’re going to expand your family and expect to know if ‘you’re trying.’ When did it become acceptable to openly ask someone if they’re actively having unprotected sex?? Not to mention that many people are ‘trying’ and feel stabbed with these queries when their ‘trying’ hasn’t resulted in a pregnancy yet. But I digress.

Now you’ve had a baby and the inappropriate invasions continue. From sex to breasts, now that you’re a nursing mother, your critics and inquirers have expanded to perfect strangers. Now, people think it’s their right to use the way you feed your child as an acceptable platform to voice their opinion, either to you privately or even broadly with malice on social media. Though many comments irritate me, because I believe people just don’t know better, I rather educate and spread the word than berate the offenders. They could be offending and not even know it. With that being said, I have compiled a list of the top eight things to refrain from saying to a nursing mother.

Healthy Brownie Balls

The only thing better than the aroma of fresh baked goods is eating heaping spoonfuls of batter as you’re baking. We’ve all been there, right? Stomach ache? Salmonella? What’s that? Who cares? Just about anything is worth the risk as your spatula carefully scrapes up every last morsel of mouth-watering, sugary, buttery goodness for you to lick, and all dignity goes out the window as you shamelessly use your finger to get what the spatula missed before washing the bowl…please, tell me that’s not just me.

After having my baby, I realized 1. that I’m not one of those women who the pounds fall off of easily (or at all)- my body seems to have formed a weirdly strong connection to the extra weight I gained and has no interest in severing that bond and 2. I became more conscious about the types of food I put in my body. I graduated from pouring sugar on my Rice Krispies cereal to using the natural sweetness of bananas instead. While I loved dressing up my Cream of Wheat the same way my grandpa likes it- with butter and brown sugar- I learned that berries and pure honey are equally delicious.

 

Family Sun Safety Guidelines

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As a child, my mom always slathered me with Coppertone SPF 30, and as I grew up through my high school and college years, my SPF went down. Now that I’m supposedly an adult (and especially as a mom), I’m very conscious about my skin health. Gone are the days of SPF 5 Australian Gold Tanning Oil and in are the days of daily sunscreen on my face and checking labels.

Though I won’t deny I’ll miss the beautiful bronzed look I could easily achieve and the coconut scented banana infused concoction that left a sparkle behind after greasing my body, I have larger concerns to protect myself and my family.

Consult these important guidelines from the American Skin Cancer Society before heading to the park, pool, vacation, or even out on a walk or picnic.

The Lone Bud

Every Saturday when my husband goes shopping, he comes home with flowers, and today was no exception. This morning he presented one bunch of purple tulips to me and one bunch of orange tulips to our four-month-old daughter. I love that she will grow up feeling loved and special as she sees her dad pick out flowers for his girls, and I also love that she’ll see it’s not just mom’s job to go grocery shopping.

As I was cutting and preparing the flowers, two of the stems broke, leaving them too short to include in the arrangement. I envy these adorable bud vases that my mom has, but I don’t have anything like that. I thought my tulip shaped juice glasses would be cute, but alas, even they were too big. I couldn’t bring myself to toss the sweet little buds; when I was little, I felt genuinely sad when I saw anything alone- I would bring the lone roly poly across the yard to his friends and ensure all of my stuffed animals had a partner to sit with in my room. This childhood sentiment (or compulsion) has stuck with me, which is why I felt for the poor little stems.

Baby undershirt trick (with bonus video!)

You did it- you created this perfect little bundle of joy. You grew a person in your body and now she’s here! When you’re pregnant, you’re able to keep your baby safe and close to you, only dealing with the physical discomforts the baby brings you. Now that your baby is out in the open world, you have millions of things to consider to make him happy and safe.

When I was pregnant, I read every new parent/new baby book I could get my hands on (which I don’t suggest – see 9 Tips for 9 Months), but nowhere in those books did it tell me the terrors of changing a newborn or poop explosions. I heard stories from my aunts and uncles of poop that went from the baby’s legs up to their necks. What?! I didn’t get it–what the heck were diapers for then? It didn’t matter because I certainly knew that wasn’t going to happen to my baby.

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The Power of Hello

Hello.

Wow. See how easy that was? One little word. Five little letters. Try it yourself out loud- say it with me now- hello (you didn’t actually do it, did you? Say it now!).

I get it, we’re all busy. I’m a working first-time mom who practically loses my glasses when they’re on my face. The few times I’ve had the opportunity to leave the house for a non-work/non doctor’s appointment outing (I think there have been three times so far…), I’m disheveled and feeling out of sorts being detached from my 3.5 month old barnacle. Generally sporting a “natural” look without makeup, letting my not quite straight not quite curly but quite unmanageable hair do its thing, you will most likely catch me in a moment where even if you were my best friend, I would want to avoid you to avoid embarrassment.

Side note: I love that today’s generation of models are becoming very prominent household names off the runway. Ah, to be 20 and gallivanting the social scene with Gigi Hadid, Kendall Jenner, and Cara Delevingne, fresh faced and looking super cool with their effortless style. I, however, look like a sallow, untamed monster when going au naturel. This is not my look, and if you look pretty this way, congratulations. I truly mean it.

 

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