“I love your outfit! You look so pretty.”
“Oh this is from the clearance rack at TJ Maxx- I had nothing else to throw on.”
“You look really great- I love your hair and makeup.”
“Ugh, I can never get my hair to cooperate and my skin is so broken out…but thanks.”
Do these conversations sound familiar? As girls, we were somehow programmed to reject compliments while simultaneously finding ways to point out our flaws in a matter of seconds. Though we may actually feel flattered, we always somehow manage to try to convince the complimenter of their error. If you think about it, this really makes no sense. Why did you spend an hour watching makeup tutorials about covering up your problem area skin, buy new makeup, and then carefully apply it? Because you wanted to hide your blemishes, of course. Then why, after all of your time and preparation, do you negate your successful execution by pointing out that actually you do not have good skin after all, going back and forth until you’ve tried your best to convince the complimenter that she’s wrong.