Why beautiful is not a compliment (and what to say instead)

Everyone likes to feel beautiful, right? That’s what the media tells us; that’s what our inner nature tells us; it’s what we instinctively tell any little girl we see and the way we measure our attractiveness against other people’s, whether intentionally or subconsciously.

After finding myself telling my daughters this all the time, I had to stop and realize what I was doing, because telling someone they’re beautiful may be a true statement, but it’s not exactly a meaningful compliment.

If someone is, as you deem them, beautiful, that’s the way they were made. They didn’t do anything (short of extreme plastic surgery gone right, in which case you can compliment the doctor) to look like that. And even so, a compliment towards one’s beauty is merely a statement on their outward appearance, one they had no control over.

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The problem with ‘everyone is beautiful’

While I find it admirable that many mainstream brands and ads have expanded the typical media’s standard of beauty – thin, young, white girl – to include all body shapes, sizes, colors, and ages, I still have a problem with the overarching message – there is a clear problem with everyone is beautiful. Yes, women of all kinds are beautiful, but so what? Why do women have to be minimized or validated by the qualification of being beautiful?

I believe this stamp of approval on our physical appearance is meant to empower women for their individuality, but it’s actually just objectifying us more.

I realize many of these campaigns are just trying to reverse the horrifying, unrealistic depiction of what it means to be a beautiful woman (size 2, airbrushed, photoshopped), which is a real problem in our society, with issues such as depression and eating disorders starting as early as 10-years-old, but instead of asserting that now ALL women can be EQUALLY objectified, we should change the message of these campaigns.

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Two popular health fads to avoid and two to try instead

Guest post by: Lucy Wyndham

The health and weight loss industry is worth trillions in the global market. Companies are realizing the huge trend in people wanting to lose weight, stay healthy, or get fit, and are making money from the demand. This is why you probably see a new fitness fads pop up every couple of months. However, not every diet trend that you see in the news is scientifically sound. Here are two of the worst popular diets to follow and how you can fix it up to provide a healthy and efficient diet for your body.

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